I really dun understand… whats wrong with coming back to my own hse to stay for a few days after marriage? why must stay together? not as if staying separately… its just staying at my own hse a few days, den his hse a few days… whats the big deal!!!!
its the norm now to stay separately until the flat is ready… no matter how I explain… mama just dun understand… even my aunties also say me… but they just cant explain whats wrong with it… its plainly old-fashioned thinking… just becos they followed the tradition, and expect me to follow also… and why married women must know how to cook and do household chores… this is the modern world for goodness sake…
we, women are not born to serve men… we are not born to be maids… we have our own thinking.. we still have freedom of speech… we can still do whateva we like as long we are take responsibility and dun do anything that is morally incorrect…
I know mama scared pple say things behind my back… say all they want… I dun care.. this is my life.. this is my marriage.. I dun need anyone to teach me how to live a marriage life…
bear is cool with this… bear’s mum can accept… why care so much abt what others will think….
its already 2009 liao… haiz.. why old-fashioned thinking still exists…
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hi.. Just to share.
Don’t feel too upset or angry about this whole matter. Quite a few pair of my close frens live separately after they ROM/AD – all waiting for their love nest like you. They do face awkward situation like you. I think it just takes a little more effort to talk to them about this whole issue yea..
Cheers!
Dont blame your mum. She is conern about you that all. She just dont wan some 38 po to talk behind your back. Your MIL and your FHB are okay with that but other peoples dont know what is happening, so they thought just married and now you every few days you go back to your home, they will start to gossip. I know you can say you dont care but your mum and your family will care.. they just dont wan others to gossip about her daughter and family members. JUst like my case, whenever either me go back Singapore alone or with my hubby, we stay at my family place, there sure ppls start to ask question and gossip. So .. I think you have to think from your mum side.. then you will understand.
i din blame her.. just dun understand y she cant think in my pt of view…
i think no matter what we do.. sure got pple say de..
yeah.. this is the norm now.. if wanna blame.. shld blame hdb for keep pushing our Breeze project back.. if they can start early and complete early.. think I wont be have this situation =X